I've also heard bad things about both transmissions living up to heavy loads. The bottom line is how you drive and how hard on parts you are. This is what I pull with mine- tipping the scales at 30.5k+ combined vehicle weight, and I'm running a single 64 turbo, timing, cam, a 3850 sfi sbc dd, etc, that likes to rev well passed 3k when towing, but the cam still allows it to pull like a common rail down low. I always am under the impression that RPMs are easier on parts cause you don't have the torque breaking them. I enjoy the 4500 and have used both to tow heavy and they both work well. 4500s seem to be easier and cheaper to get/and get parts for. Good luck!